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and we’re back

Did you miss me?  Did you notice the empty corner of your brain usually occupied by the latest cute pictures of Avery Peppermint?

Santa Peppermint

Oh, so adorable.  But we can go one better, can’t we?

Peppermint Elf

There she is.  Peppermint Elf.  Somehow my cheap editing makes me feel like Stewart & Colbert’s CG team.

How about the newest youngest Phineas & Ferb Phan?

Phineas Phan

She could watch those guys all day.  Or for ten minutes.  Depending on her hunger level.

She’s three months old today.  To celebrate, we took her to the pediatrician, who stuck her in the leg with a needle.  We are going to have to research “celebrate” in the dictionary, I think.

She did not care for that needle at all.  Her look of pained confusion was heartbreaking.  But to her credit, after a minute of good strong crying, she eased up and took it like a man.  She was quiet all the way home.  We even got a smile out of her.  Dada was very proud of his girl.

So I took a couple days off from writing.  Partly because I didn’t have much else to say in the wake of the horrible event in Newtown.  You just have to get a bit of distance.  Not that you could tell that to the swarms of media dogs that descended on the town, and are there still.  Hopefully the Town Crazy was a solo act, because this sort of frenzy will bring the worst out of people.  Have some respect.  Let these poor folk bury their dead.

Anyway, as I said, I didn’t have much to contribute there that could have been in any way positive.  So I shut up.  Also, I turtled up to fight off a cold as fast as possible.  The worst is past after two days huddled up, so I think that was a wise investment.  I’ve had colds linger for two weeks.  Not this time.  Not when it means I can’t hold my baby girl.  Or my beloved wife, TYVM.  So I quarantined myself off, didn’t breathe on anyone, washed frequently, and drank “plenty” of fluids.  And by “plenty” I mean “boatload” and by “boatload” I mean the levels normally found outside the boat, enabling said boat to float.  Downstream, even.  Bit of a dry cough now, and that’s about it.  Possibly a slightly stunned bladder.  Marjorie took charge of hydration, you see.  She’s very good.

Couple more days and we head back west.  I would say “vacation” but I guarantee I get more rest right here.  By the look of things, we will be going more or less non-stop the whole time we’re there.  Not that I’m in any way not looking forward to it.  I mentioned loving Christmas, right?  And this time I get to introduce everyone to Avery Peppermint.  Best Christmas ever.

It’s good to write again.  I will let ‘er go right here, and see you tomorrow.  Merry Christmas.

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blackest friday

Wow.  Today was hard.  I don’t know if it’s because I’m a new dad, or if it’s the sheer horror, but I have not been this stunned since 9/11.

This morning in the beatific little town of Newtown, Connecticut, 20yr old Adam Lanza shot and killed his mother, then drove her car to the elementary school where she taught kindergarten, and killed 7 more adults and 20 children before taking his own life.  Twenty children.  Reports conflict, but indicate he used a .22 rifle and had two semi-automatic handguns in the car.  All were legally purchased, the two handguns by his mother.

Where do you start with that?  How do you wrap your brain around what might possibly motivate someone to enter a classroom, point a rifle at 5 year olds and start shooting?  We feel we understood Columbine – disgruntled teens acting out against their peers.  We imagine the same must be true of the Colorado theater shooting.  But this defies understanding.  This young man was clearly down a very deep, dark, lonely hole.  Some sources say he had Asperger’s.

As soon as the details started coming out of Newtown, the cry went up for gun control.  If only it were that simple.  Don’t get me wrong – I firmly believe fewer guns means fewer shootings.  But the guns are here.  It doesn’t matter how strict you make the law, there is almost one gun for every man, woman and child in America.  Most of those guns are legally owned and not likely to exit just because you’ve suddenly changed the rules.  So while I think it does need to happen, and right now, I don’t think it’s going to fix anything in the next twenty years or so.  What then can we do?  The answer is so painfully obvious that you know conservatives (read Republicans) won’t stand for it.

I don’t say that to ruffle feathers.  This deserves to be way bigger than party lines.  But very simply, economic conservatives don’t want to pay for universal health care.  That means there is no public money to treat those who most need it.  Those who most pose a threat to the rest of us.  Until that fatally short-sighted perspective changes, there will still be 185 times as many gunshot fatalities in the States as the next closest country.  Like gun rights proponents are fond of saying, guns don’t kill people (which is asinine), people kill people.  Perhaps unintentionally, they do have a point.  Treat the problem, not the symptom.  This poses a real quandary for conservatives.  They want their guns, but are unwilling to pay into a system that would all but prevent getting shot by them. handguns

As food for thought, 22 children were stabbed by a knife-wielding adult in China today.  No fatalities.

So it’s been a long day.  We’ve had some tears (mine came in tandem with the President’s) and a lot of hugs.  I’m fighting a cold but couldn’t help holding on to Avery longer than is prudent.  Hope she doesn’t pay for my emotion.

We’ve been trying to take a good family photo for Christmas, and we thought we’d do that today to see if that could help us get some perspective.  It at least provided a distraction for a while.

Then it pops into your head that all those parents probably had all their Christmas shopping done, and returning those gifts is going to be hell.

I will probably avoid the news for a week or so.

If you are interested in having (or maintaining) an open mind the next time gun control comes up in conversation, here are some thought provoking and unbiased stats about mass shootings in the US.

Man, we were having such a great week, weren’t we?  I’m going to save all that until tomorrow.  It doesn’t belong in this post.

Hug your kids.  Talk about it, but keep it at their level.  Hug your neighbours and their kids.  Look them all in the eye and reassure them that we’re all in this together.

Now is a terrific time to reach out.  Not just in solidarity, but because somewhere out there are people that desperately need our help.

Pepper & Jo

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Tellin’ it how it is, Emerso

Emerson quote

 

Kids, dudes.  I can’t tell you the deal here.  I read this out of the corner of my eye while walking down Park Ave, and assumed this must be the coolest Irish church ever.  You know, abandoning all pretence and such for the honesty in booze.  But no. It was a church with pretence.  The five year old in charge of filling out the signage, on the other hand, has the pretence of a… five year old.  A drunk one.  I am dying to know what constitutes worshine, and if I’ve ever inadvertently committed it.  One needs to be aware.  You know, lest one inadvertently worshipe.

The Fuel planning session was modified in stream, as it happens.  Extenuating circumstances and such.  Most of the allotted time was spent on Madison, she who is never shy about taking advantage of whatever time she can get her hands on.  I like that about her.  She has ambition.  Like you would not believe.  So she got some attention, and it was good.  Fuel planning, in the complete 2013 sense, is still lacking.  I’ll clarify – we know what we want to do, but it needs structure.  We have the technology.  We can rebuild hims.  It’ll happen.  Might not be ’til January now, but that’s acceptable.  This last year, for various reasons, didn’t get planned out ’til April.  Turned out alright.  We just have higher aspirations.

So Lee and I attended the Canadian Consulate in New York‘s recognition of Barb Stegemann and her role in representing Women in Leadership.  Nothing half assed about it – this lady walked into Afghanistan and offered heroin poppy growers a cash crop alternative, and she’s turning the results into perfumery gold.  Lord & Taylor just picked her up in New York, and she’s pretty much global in 2013.  I’m wearing three of her scents right now.  sigh.  The one on my neck is quite fetching.  The one on my left wrist is on the official “buy for wife” list.  If you don’t understand the world’s obsession with the cloying old classics, and you’re ready for something not just new but the fragrance equivalent of landing on Mars, you need to get this in your nose.

It was really great to see Canada recognize an entrepreneur.  Doubly so that it was a woman and in New York.  This lady sees opportunity to change lives on a national scale, one family at a time, offering real incentive for farmers to be true to their own beliefs and still be relevant in the global market.  In Afghanistan.  And Iran.  And Haiti.  This is treating the problem at the source, rather than picking at the symptomatic scabs.  With her on board, the War on Drugs seems pitifully short sighted.  Standing O for this lady, please.  She sells perfume, and it’s changing lives that will one day change national governments.  How awesome is that.

So it was neat to be there for the Consul General in New York to express his appreciation and admiration for this dynamic lady.  Very cool.

While we were there we talked to a fella who used to write national TV ads, and now writes off Broadway plays, and to the lady behind Sniffapalooza, who is very excited about my family journey with Avery and Marjorie.  Evidently she used to be an agent, so was intrigued to hear about our adventures in Banff and in seeking a network thus far.  We will be talking in more depth with both these fine folk.

After we left (long after the ugly lights had booted us to the curb, Barb included), we wondered if we should have made more of a ruthless effort to stay in circulation, talking to as many people as possible, but we realize that we excel at maximizing moments.  If we are destined to be here right now, don’t go pressuring us to be over there starting from ones.  Let’s see where this goes.  It’s what got us on the VIP list at this shindig in the first place (thank you, Ms Malleau).  Anyone in the movie biz will tell you, it’s about the personal connection.  Who you know.  Having the freedom to explore those relationships with the attention they deserve is a luxury I don’t think many industries afford.  And maybe we’ll find that our own industry demands less intuition and more calculation, but I’m content to let that revelation happen when it needs to happen.  I really like the idea of looking back on my accomplishments and saying I made it by being good at what I do and fun to be around.

#canadaNY, btw, is four small rooms designed entirely around people shuffling about whilst discussing affairs of state while nibbling canapes and waiting for drinks.  There’s a grand piano that serves as a handy surface for displaying framed photos of past dignitaries, including Mulroney, which for me was weird but unsurprising given the current regime.  While I liked both the Consular General and the Assistant thereof, I couldn’t help but wonder what the place would have been like under Trudeau, or some other likewise qualified rockstar politician.

Anyway, the evening was fun.  People came up to ask us 1) is wearing a tie over a t-shirt the current fashion rage in New York and 2) is wearing a tie over a t-shirt the current fashion rage in Canada.  Great conversation starter.  Also not true on both accounts.  Give ’em time.  They’ll catch up.  That’s how we roll.

Tomorrow we get Barb (and her husband) all to ourselves.  I’m totally looking forward to it.  This is the pond in which we swim, and I dig it.

p.s. we had her in stitches with @BeepGodCalling.  You should check that business out.

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