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(djm) deep thots / 14 Comments

no matter how well-balanced you are- the world will always manage to throw you the curve. promise. merry freakin’ xmas.

look- if you read my blog just say hi, okay?

14 thoughts on “hurt”

  1. making an attempt and saying hello

    I think in this world we live in today every single person at some point or another thinks that they have it figured out and I wish I could share a secret with them. We all have a life time of growing to do.

    Someone once wrote…..
    If you had the courage to see yourself as you really are….would you find out what is wrong with you and correct it? If you did you might have a chance to profit from your mistakes and learn something from your experiences with others, for we all should know that there are things wrong with us, because if there weren’t we would now be where we would have been if we had spent more time analyzing our weaknesses, and less time building alibis to cover them.

    COMMENT:
    it was not even three days ago that I said, along the same lines, “I hope I never stop learning.”

    Every few years for a while there I would find myself thinking that I had it all figured out. grade 10, grade 12, second year at university, turning 25. It was around then that I realized I was never going to have it figured out, and I felt a lot better. There will always be room to become a better person.

  3. Bumlifter

    Luckily I am two handed.

    On one hand I agree on the other hand you two are idiots. Shocking? Yes. Am I an idiot too? You bet.

    Yes we always grow, blah blah blah. We don’t always have to look that deeply into it. Things in our life are always changing. Partly because we cannot control everything, and partly because we alter the things we do have control over when things get to stagnent.

    Sometimes there are things that we want so much to happen and when they don’t, we feel disapointed. Now I don’t mean “I want a Porsche for Christmas, oh crap I didn’t get one, boo hoo”, I mean things that are almost in our grasp. The almost attainable. As in “We almost won the championship, we were one goal away”. Those are the ones that hurt so much.

    For the more common of us, that often means the house that is $30,000 over what we can afford. Yes I probably ‘could’ buy it, but it would me changing life as I know it, and sacrificing all the things I wanted the new house to be. In the end, not worth it. Logically we know it is not going to work.
    Or it could mean meeting someone really special, having an undeniable connection, (read:attraction) and yet somehow the rest of our lifes are just to far apart. Sure we could make it work in the meantime, but once the honeymoon phase is over realization that our lives are actually much different. Perhaps even enough different that once we both give a little we still don’t meet in the middle. The painful part starts when we finally admit that as awesome as this person is, things are just too different to make this worth it. Logically we know it is not going to work. Do I regret it? No. Do I still think this person is special and is there still an attraction? Yes. But over all with all the things I have learned and where I am right now, even though I want it, this just might not work.

    Hypothetically speaking of course.

    Now that doesn’t mean with the way things keep changing, that down the road things might not be so different. Our lives might be on more similar paths, who knows. Things keep changing.

    And as for “There will always be room to become a better person.”, you would have had to have been born an asshole:) Me? Apparently I am working backwards because I was the sweetest little kid…

    In conclusion, all valid points. I agree we keep growing, and learning, and most of us improving. Sometimes we need to take a step backwards though, and try not to over think things. Address the problem like you are explaining it to a nine year old. Most nine year olds don’t have these problems, and it isn’t because they have to improve themselves.

    Sponsored by Jack Handy

    To me, it’s a good idea to always carry two sacks of something when you walk around. That way, if anybody says, “Hey, can you give me a hand?”
    You can say, “Sorry, got these sacks.”

  7. aa

    Sometimes there aren’t lessons to be learned, but instead unhappy realities to be unhappily swallowed.

    At those times, all one can do is let you know you have good friends who love you, and that it’s always darkest before dawn. So if you’re going to steal the neighbor’s newspaper that’s the time to do it.

  8. ZQ

    It really sucks when something that is good, comfortable and in theory is exactly what you want just isn’t good enough. There are so many different kinds of love and so many people that we could all *make it work* with but I still believe that there has to be one person that has one special quality that tips the scales just that extra little bit compared to the rest that could have been.

    It hurts like a bitch and takes a lot of courage to move on when a relationship is moving along like it should but you know in your heart that there is something missing. You can be with the most wonderful person in the entire world who treats you with the respect, love and admiration that we all deserve but if that certain something is missing we shouldn’t settle. My heart has been broken a few times because I refused to settle.

    One day DJ, you’ll find that person who blows your mind, heart and soul and you’ll do the same for them.

    As social beings I refuse to believe that there isn’t someone out there to make all of us happy. Besides, if a small town girl with a die hard independant mind that often causes rifts with many (especially after cocktails) and on the flip side has a soft heart for family and friends can still hold out hope so can you :)

  11. mischiff

    Wow. ZQ. Thanks for saying. You’re solid gold, you know that? I deeply hope that this Christmas is everything you deserve it to be. You are loved.

  13. mischiff

    Jim?! D00D! I’m somehow honoured to see you here. I have a ton of respect for you, your writing, and your lifestyle. Hope to see you here (and at Durty Raev0r Parteez) lots more.

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